Memorial Services

A Memorial Service is a celebration of life and a spiritual practice of being together in grief. In Unitarian Universalist congregations, these services are developed by the family of the deceased and the presiding minister to specially honor the memory of the individual.

The service usually includes the following elements:

  • A brief eulogy given by the minister

  • Personal remembrances offered by 2-3  speakers (family and friends)

  • Readings of poetry and/or Scripture

  • A time for communal sharing

  • Keyboard music

Memorials for First Church members and their immediate family are part of our work as a church and are free.

Memorials for extended family or for people not connected to First Church require payment to the Minister ($250) and Musician ($250).

Memorials in the COVID-19 Pandemic

  • All memorials held during this crisis will be held online using Zoom.

  • Contact Rev. Bukey to organize and schedule a memorial.

  • Online memorials include keyboard music and may include singing hymns familiar to the congregation.

  • In addition, an in-person memorial can be held when physical distancing is ended and large gatherings can safely be resumed.

Sample Order of Service

Prelude (keyboard)                                   Andrei Baumann, Acting Music Director, First Church   

Welcome and Chalice Lighting           Rev. Elizabeth Bukey, Minister, First Church

Musical Interlude (keyboard)

Reading                                                     (read by Rev. Bukey or by a loved one)

Life Sketch                                                Rev. Bukey

Remembrances                                       (3-5 people may speak; each person speaks for 3-5 minutes (300-500 words)


Communal Sharing of Memories

Reading                                                      (read by Rev. Bukey or by a loved one)

Musical Interlude (keyboard)

Prayer                                                           Rev. Bukey

Reading                                                        Rev. Bukey by Roland B. Gittelsohn, from The Gates of Prayer           


Benediction & Chalice Extinguishing   Rev. Bukey

Postlude (keyboard)                           

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First Church in JP, UU

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6 Eliot Street

Jamaica Plain, MA 02130


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